When was the last time you took a shower with your spouse? The idea simply may not have occurred to you lately.
It’s not very practical of course. Stalls are usually just about big enough for one. Most have only one shower head, which means you have to take turns getting wet, warm, rinsed, soap out of the eyes, etc. And the effort takes a good deal of coordination and cooperation, as you move around, out of the way, take your turn, bump about, and pass the soap back and forth to one other.
Inviting your spouse (or inviting yourself) into this daily private reverie is however, a fairly friendly and intimate thing to do.
If you shower naked (which they recommend) then there is a good degree of vulnerability and trust involved. The fact that it is (to be honest) a fairly awkward and cumbersome undertaking means that you must be reasonably kind and patient with each other in order for the effort to succeed.
You can help soap one another up of course, which has pleasant possibilities and helps in sliding by for your turn under the shower head, but for the most part you will simply do as your normally do, with the exception that someone else is seriously getting in the way!
Well… couples who have given this a try report it to be a consistently pleasing experience, with a happy after-glow that they say seems to last well into the day.
After all, it is a rather happy memory (and secret) to recall this picture in your mind as you make your way through morning traffic, or as you persevere through a mindless meeting, or a long phone call.
Couples who shower together from time to time give this advice.
- Just do it. Nike. Don’t think about it much, or wait for certain feelings or lightening to strike.
- Show up. Join your spouse midway into their shower with a “…may I join you?”
- Hang about, help if you can, chat, soap up, perhaps steal a few slippery sexual caresses.
- Enjoy your naked partner, grateful that you are in this (life, and shower) together.
- Showering together doesn’t usually lead to sex, but if it does, then just take this as it comes. Better than soap in your eyes.
So there’s your challenge for this week.
There are all sorts of reasons why couples may prefer not to jump into this together, so perhaps this is just not for everyone. Cool. But if the thought has passed by a few times, then slide in some morning for some brief quality time with your belove
It’s a very pleasant memory to take into your day, this bit of clean fun and exchange of pleasantries, and will likely soften your hearts toward each other for hours afterward.